As the seasons change here in the Eastern part of the United States it has me thinking about time.
This is what I have experienced and questioned.
As infants time is associated with eating, sleeping, diaper changing, bathing, comfort, love, etc. A menagerie of tasks to sustain life. Parental time during this period of adjustment is a blur as the hours run into each other and sleep deprivation sets in..oh that precious time.
I have read that young toddlers associate time with the gap between seeing and not seeing their parent. (I have found that with puppies also!)
Preteens don’t think about time. When I was young it was all about what time I had to be home, it was when darkness came and street lights shimmered. Time was a luxury we took advantage of, as we used it freely and at will.
Most teenagers think they have all the time in the world. Millennials, from what I have observed rarely think about time. I haven’t seen a watch on a wrist of a teenager or most people, in many years. They use their phone to see what time it is. Things change.
Teens squander their time. Some use it wisely, but from what I have observed most waste it and don’t appreciate the gift it is. They text to communicate spending countless hours on phones, time goes quickly.
Younger people rush their adolescences because they want to drive, drink alcohol, get a job and everything they think comes along with being an adult.
When one is love, most yearn for more time with their partner.
When a loved one is dying we wish for more time with them.
People planning vacations loose sight of the in-between time that comes with everyday living.
People engaged spend time (and money) planning a wedding that lasts for a few hours and waste time after they are married not allotting time to fulfill the dreams they hoped for together.
Those learning in a higher educational setting are “getting through” classes to attain a piece of paper that may entitle them to get the job they want. At such an expense does the time put in ever equal the goal strived for?
“Time is the wisest counselor of all” – Pericles
Adults who work in mundane jobs wish they were not in those jobs and waste time thinking of the things they should or could be doing differently.
Married couples who have families give up time together because they are working just to live within the boundaries of what society deems a “normal” life.
Wealth does not afford one more time. Comfort yes, time no.
Wishing for more time with someone you love, who does not love you wastes time.
People who have chronic illnesses try to manage their time just to function.
Being with people you really don’t like wastes your time and theirs. I knew someone once who told me she only invites people to her home that she feels comfortable with and truly enjoys their presence. How refreshing!
Terminally ill people can’t waste time, their gift vanishes with every moment that passes.
As we age the aches and pains of our bodies wearing out makes us think, should I manage my time better, can I be happier or is it too late to be healthier?
Mortality spurs thoughts of time.
When we attend a funeral or note that someone has died, adults take inventory of their lives and time.
“Lost time is never found again”. – Benjamin Franklin
During this pandemic time has been recognized more than it ever has in my opinion. It has made us stop and adjust to a restrictive lifestyle. Time hasn’t stopped, we have adapted to new rules. We question how long, how much time must we conform for our health, the health of our community and country.
I think it’s interesting how perspectives changes as we age, if we are fortunate to have time to age.
Time is a gift, perhaps the most precious gift of all. If one makes an attempt to embrace it and not waste it with doubt, worry, abandon or fear it could make a significant difference in longevity. How we use time is up to us.
Music makes time more pleasant for many. Spending time listening to lyrics and melodies can be impactful.
Songs that speak of time spark thoughts of inspiration and emotion, perhaps movement towards spending some of YOUR gift of time exactly how YOU would like to.
“Time in a Bottle” by Jim Croce, “Time is On My Side” by The Rolling Stones, “Take Your Time” by Buddy Holly, “Times They Are A-Changin” by Bob Dylan, “Time After Time”, by Cyndi Lauper, ‘Does Anybody Know What Time It Is”, by Chicago, “Time of The Season” by The Zombies, “As Time Goes By” Herman Hupfeld, “Yesterday” by the Beatles, “Wasn’t Expecting That” by Jamie Lawson, “Remember When” by Alan Jackson, “Unchained Melody” by Righteous Brothers, “The Way We Were” by Barbra Streisand, “Dock of the Bay” by Otis Redding, “Time”, by Hootie and The Blowfish, “Somewhere In Time” by John Barry.
The Gift of Time